When the world gives you a head start, with a decent family, financial stability and proper education... and you still manage to fucked it up... then it is on you.
When you are blessed with a healthy body, working limbs and disabilities-free... and you still manage to fucked your body up.. then it is on you.
When you are born with a good mind in synthesizing information and rationalizing your actions... and yet you still allow people to fuck you up... then it is on you.
When you are endowed with a beautiful and wonderful life partner... and you still manage to fucked it up... be it the fault of two ... be it the limitation of the moment... YES! YOU GOT IT! IT IS STILL FUCKING ON YOU!
When you are constantly sane, and rational yet you let your life spiral to this predicament...then it is all on you. You fucked up. But most importantly, "what are you going to do about it? "